“Hey, what’s your 31st celebration plan?” Pramod, my colleague was asking me. “Mine?” I was just confirming. “Yes, as this 31st came on Thursday, so we can rest on Friday, Saturday and Sunday too na.” Pramod was so excited to share this. “True”. I just smiled at him. He understood and said, “Oh yaa, how can I forget? A lady never has a holiday and especially if she is a mommy too. I mean really, don’t you ladies get tired of doing the same things for the full family. Even my mom is the same. She will keep doing housework with a smile. Every day the same and that too without complaining.” Whoa, he actually made a point yaa. How? See here in this blog which talks about a mom never retires.
Really mommies, we never think about ourselves. We love to do everything for our family only. We cook, clean, teach, shop, attend functions and do everything that is been expected and needed in Indian families. And we never get tired, it’s all done out of love for our family.
See this basic difference:
In all the houses, the husband comes from the office, so he is tired, he orders water, tea, snacks, food, and he will relax and enjoy the TV.
A wife comes from the office and she is tired too but she will throw her purse, change quickly and rush towards the kitchen. Without sitting, she will do multiple things at a time, she will start cooking, making tea, looking after kids, listening and responding to their full day story, wash everyone’s’ tiffin, will check on the homework, serve to hubby, play with kids and what not…..
Isn’t it a true story of almost every next door in India? Indian tradition says its husband’s rights order everything and work only out of the house chill and enjoy once he is home, celebrate his birthday in a grand way without taking a glass of water in the house. And repeat this every day. But this cannot be the same for a woman, no, not at all. Why? Why this male-dominated society doesn’t understand that a woman needs rest too, the way he worked in his office, she did the same. In fact, she is more tired as she worked, cooked and di tons of things before leaving the house for office and when she returns she does the same again. Can’t she feel tired after doing extra work? Can’t she have some right to get a cup of tea after returning home? Won’t she feels like relaxing on the sofa where her husband sits every day? Every day she will only take kids to study stress, can’t her husband take some subjects and teach? There are tons of questions unanswered like this in our society but no one knows the answer. Of course, no one wants to talk about it and wanna change it.
After 60 every working Indian whether its lady or a man can take retirement. Once home, men join senior citizen clubs or they join society office for some work or find other outside ways to full their days and a lady? She becomes a full-time working wife (surely not just a housewife as house brings more work than an office.) When you are in the office you can take breaks, complete your work as per the watch and return home, then you are free to relax but not the same with housework, it’s never-ending.
So my dear friends let’s accept the fact that let it be a mother, a wife or a sister, but Indian ladies really never retires.